Dealing with your Boss Like a Boss

Dealing with negative bosses can be a challenging task, but it's essential to maintain a positive work environment. Having a difficult boss can create a lot of stress and can have a significant impact on your overall job satisfaction. However, there are ways to handle the situation and get back on track.

A famous person who learned to deal with a difficult boss is none other than former President of the United States, Barack Obama. In his book, "A Promised Land," he writes about his experience working for a difficult boss at his first job out of college. Obama's boss was known to be demanding and sometimes belittling, but he learned to cope by focusing on his work and striving to meet his boss's high expectations. Obama also sought out mentors within the organization who could offer guidance and support.

Here are three steps to help you get back on track when dealing with a negative boss:

1. Communicate: It's essential to communicate with your boss about your concerns. Be respectful and professional when discussing any issues you may have. Try to find common ground and work together to find a solution that benefits both of you.

2. Focus on the positive: It's easy to get bogged down in negativity when dealing with a difficult boss. Instead, focus on the positive aspects of your job and try to find joy in your work. This will help you maintain a positive attitude and reduce stress.

3. Seek support: It can be helpful to seek support from colleagues, mentors, or even a therapist. Talking to someone who understands what you're going through can help you process your emotions and find ways to cope with the situation.

It's important to remember that there are no foolproof ways to deal with a negative boss. Sometimes the best option is to walk away and find a job that better aligns with your values and work style. Experts suggest that if you do decide to leave your job, it's essential to do so on good terms. This will help you maintain a positive reputation in your industry and may even lead to future job opportunities.

In conclusion, dealing with a negative boss can be challenging, but it's important to stay positive and focus on the things you can control. Seek support when you need it and remember that sometimes the best decision is to move on. As Barack Obama demonstrated, it's possible to thrive in a difficult work environment with the right mindset and a little bit of humor.

Jorge Correa, LMFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist based in Oregon. He has a unique background, having served in the Navy as a hospital corpsman and completed three tours in support of Operation Iraqi Freedom. During his time in the military, Jorge gained valuable experience working in a high-stress environment and providing support to service members and their families.